41-621181 Key Phob Works when Arming but will not disarm
42-621A0A Key Phob Works when Arming but wil not disarm
This tells me that the ESN has been entered correctly and the problem is elsewhere. Check that  option 1 is off, and that the wireless key functions are correct in , 61-62.
This is how I programmed the zones. I don't think I did this wright.
You're right, it's not right. This is:
*8-5555-101-Turn 8 on
102-Turn 8 on
103-Turn 8 on
104-Turn 8 on
Double check your ESNs, it's easy to mis-key something, especially if there's alpha characters involved. Check also that the batteries are installed correctly and read up on testing wireless motions, specifically the "high-traffic shut down" feature. I've never used DSC wireless very much and constantly have to review the manual to get through it. Prior to 2 days ago, it had been a very long time since I did one but Saturday's job went smooth as silk (7 contacts, 3 motions, 1 fob, all wireless). I had to do nothing more than what I've mentioned.